Well, I made some progress with my friend today. All I did, was just not let her off the hook, and made her promise to come over. This got her up and out of the house, and we developed a plan together.
She has a clear plan of the steps she needs to take and I'm sure I'll hear from her tomorrow to let me know how it's progressing.
how did it go? did she followup?
Yes, she made the appropriate phone calls and has an appointment this morning.
I'm glad she took the necessary steps, and is continuing on with them. I asked her to call me today to let me know how it went. She already feels better for having taken action.
Well, I made some progress with my friend today. All I did, was just not let her off the hook, and made her promise to come over. This got her up and out of the house, and we developed a plan together.
She has a clear plan of the steps she needs to take and I'm sure I'll hear from her tomorrow to let me know how it's progressing.
I understand fear. I understand depression. But, when you've run out of time and your options are getting more limited by the minute, it's time to get off your azz and do something about it.
How do you get people to see that and act?
sometimes things are so difficult for people that they cannot face them. there is sort of a magical few moments where if they dont engage with the problem magically the problem ceases to exist. think pleasure/ pain. of course the mess doesnt really go away but out of sight etc. and sooner rather than later they are knee deep in whatever it is they avoided and they cant avoid anymore and usually by then all other options have run out of time. at that point all you can do is love them in spite of their faults, yanno? we all have em, faults and quirks and ya cant save them from the consequences tho you can hope that something was learned and that the price paid wasnt too high. you offered your time they didnt take advantage of it. it was their call and i wouldnt be too swift and stepping in to pick up the pieces after the fact either and in future encounters with them on these kinds of things id set some boundaries so you dont end up frustrated.
Well, I made some progress with my friend today. All I did, was just not let her off the hook, and made her promise to come over. This got her up and out of the house, and we developed a plan together.
She has a clear plan of the steps she needs to take and I'm sure I'll hear from her tomorrow to let me know how it's progressing.
Thanks, Psych for your insight. I did start to get a little frustrated. I believe she felt that, and took action accordingly. Whatever works, yanno?
I understand fear. I understand depression. But, when you've run out of time and your options are getting more limited by the minute, it's time to get off your azz and do something about it.
How do you get people to see that and act?
sometimes things are so difficult for people that they cannot face them. there is sort of a magical few moments where if they dont engage with the problem magically the problem ceases to exist. think pleasure/ pain. of course the mess doesnt really go away but out of sight etc. and sooner rather than later they are knee deep in whatever it is they avoided and they cant avoid anymore and usually by then all other options have run out of time. at that point all you can do is love them in spite of their faults, yanno? we all have em, faults and quirks and ya cant save them from the consequences tho you can hope that something was learned and that the price paid wasnt too high. you offered your time they didnt take advantage of it. it was their call and i wouldnt be too swift and stepping in to pick up the pieces after the fact either and in future encounters with them on these kinds of things id set some boundaries so you dont end up frustrated.
I don't entirely understand people. All right, so I don't understand people at all. I see this same thing happen over and over again.
How many times have you seen people paralyzed with fear? Something bad is happening, and they become too scared to do anything to stop it. I don't mean staring like a deer in headlights when a truck is barreling down on top of you. I mean daily life stresses of finances, work, legal issues, etc.
And the thing that pisses me off is they come to you and ask for help. You clear the day to work WITH them through the problem to help them see the solutions they are too involved to see for themselves.
How many times have you done this for others? Only to have them cancel or try to "reschedule" at the last minute, citing some freak illness that has suddenly plagued them. How many others try to push the work onto you because "they don't know what to do" as if you've done this countless times in the past.
I understand fear. I understand depression. But, when you've run out of time and your options are getting more limited by the minute, it's time to get off your azz and do something about it.
