As far as satisfaction, yes, because I enjoy it and my recommendations to the court are based on what I believe would be the most beneficial to my client without regard to what any of other parties desire. The heart break part comes in when the court rules otherwise and I truly believe it has ruled incorrectly.
I can imagine that would be heartbreaking. especially when your experience might allow you to go down the path a few steps and predict what might happen. decisions are made on what is tho not on what might be so often id assume these kinds of difficulties arise?
i dunno. it seems a lot has changed over the years at least as far as what is considered to be the best interests of those who go before the courts for protection or custody. i sat on a discussion panel a few years back having to do with the best interest ideology and was the only female in with a group of males and really the lone voice of dissent. what bothered me most from that evening was the nearly universally accepted idea that, all other disqualifying issues aside, kids were better off with the parent who could provide the best toys or the best lifestyle. things like love and extended family were valued less than the ability to buy expensive clothing, video games and expensive vacations. imo its better for kids to have to work a bit for what they have and to be surrounded by family who loves and cares for them. i dont think its a mystery why the males on that panel would feel that way and seemed to me to be a backlash sort of thinking..
As far as sisters? Sadly, no siblings for me. I used to beg my parents for a little sister as a child. I even asked Santa Claus one year. :) It would have been nice even now as an adult to have that lifetime familiar connection with a brother or sister.
yeah i dont have any either. well i have a brother but we havent seen each other for a long time and im not expecting a reunion soon. two of my closest friends come from big irish families and have 10 or more sibs. going to their homes on the holidays is truly amazing since now they all have partners or spouses and kids. my irish family believed in birth control. i am so envious of those who have so many siblings. im told there is a downside but i cant imagine what it would be for adult sibs.
As far as sisters? Sadly, no siblings for me. I used to beg my parents for a little sister as a child. I even asked Santa Claus one year. :) It would have been nice even now as an adult to have that lifetime familiar connection with a brother or sister.
Take care.
Lily
As a young child I would beg my parents for an older brother. And laugh and laugh.
Good to see you settling in. Welcome to the board. Enjoy your night.
currently anonymous because, once again, I was too lazy to sign in first.
You asked if my work involved children. Yes, many of my clients are children. However, as a guardian ad litem, I represent any individual who is incapable of representing themselves in a legal action. So, yes, children but also a fair number of adults, some mentally disabled from birth, some mentally disabled through traumatic injury, either accidental or self-inflicted, and still others, the elderly with dementia. The cases involving children are not always abuse related either; divorce and warring parents sadly account for a significant number of clients. As far as satisfaction, yes, because I enjoy it and my recommendations to the court are based on what I believe would be the most beneficial to my client without regard to what any of other parties desire. The heart break part comes in when the court rules otherwise and I truly believe it has ruled incorrectly.
As far as sisters? Sadly, no siblings for me. I used to beg my parents for a little sister as a child. I even asked Santa Claus one year. :) It would have been nice even now as an adult to have that lifetime familiar connection with a brother or sister.
Hi everyone. Thank you for the welcomes and the crown. Not really a crown type of woman, more of a barefoot, jeans, t-shirt type in my off hours but whatever works. LOL. So on that note, I am an outdoorsy type, hiking, beach when I can get there, love to read, talk, people watch, and I am a work a holic, although I am trying to do better about that. I work in the legal field as a guardian ad litem and mediator. Very interesting work, although it can be heartbreaking. Long hours. Sometimes I wish I had a job that I could just leave at the office. To unwind, I sometimes play mindless online games but many times I just like to sit outside with an alcohol laced beverage and contemplate the stars to decompress. :)
Have a good day everyone. Take care.
Lily
-- Edited by Lily on Friday 17th of July 2009 08:43:50 AM
Your job sounds interesting. I can understand the heartbreak but I bet there's a fair amount of satisfaction sprinkled in. Looking forward to learning more about it.
it does sound very interesting. this is work with kids?
Im reading here and humming and noticing once again the song hummed. changes. not easy are they? i suppose weve all heard that pain is a necessary thing, it forces us to move and change and hopefully grow as a result. and while all of that feels true (thinking back on all the previous life changes) going thru the process is always hard. and while we work on repairing the holes made by whatever the issue is, why is it that fixing what needs fixed somehow is like redecorating a house? you paint the room and the drapes look faded, you replace the drapes and the floor looks funky. you make a life tweak here and notice another area that needs work.
but theres also opportunity buried in there too. and despite the funk im feeling im telling myself that daily. whether weve lost friends or lost a loved one or lost a job or lost ourselves somewhere as long as we breathe we have the chance to change that, to make new friends, get new jobs, love again or rediscover who we are. its all good.
ive lost 4 good friends in the past year, not to death but to life, one to Albuquerque, one to New York, and now two to Carolina. And yes, its not as tho they died, they didnt and yes we will visit occasionally, keep in touch, call and then as often happens we will probably drift apart as life interferes with intention. 4 close friends, my constructed group of sisters replacing those i wasnt gifted with in the familial process. And the positive side of this? for the last 2 decades my social life has primarily revolved around these 4 women. we shared particular interests. one taught me to paddle and ski, one was my will do anything on a dare, omg i cant believe we did that buddy, one i could count on to tell me what i needed to hear and one i met i kindergarten and has known me longer and better than anyone in the world. with their leaving i get to explore new things! so the opportunity here i guess is to reach out to the world experiment with ideas that ive put aside , things that ill love as much as long walks and paddling on a quiet pond or potluck bookclubs or pool parties and firelit dinners with the pals. the question of the week for me is what do you want to learn and how can you go about doing it? ive always wanted to learn to play an instrument. i think thats one area to pursue. mebbe ill get good enuf to join a geezer band. lol. i want to reconnect to theatre. i miss that. id like to learn to paint, id like to brush up on my spanish. anybody else have any good strategies or plans to cure the situational blues?
Changes
Phil Ochs Sit by my side, come as close as the air Share in a memory of gray Wander in my words, dream about the pictures That I play of changes Green leaves of summer turn red in the fall To brown and to yellow they fade And then they have to die, trapped within The circle time parade of changes Scenes of my young years were warm in my mind Visions of shadows that shine 'Til one day I returned and found they were the Victims of the vines of changes The world's spinning madly, it drifts in the dark Swings through a hollow of haze A race around the stars, a journey through The universe ablaze with changes Moments of magic will glow in the night All fears of the forest are gone But when the morning breaks they're swept away by Golden drops of dawn, of changes Passions will part to a strange melody As fires will sometimes burn cold Like petals in the wind, we're puppets to the silver Strings of souls, of changes Your tears will be trembling, now we're somewhere else One last cup of wine we will pour And I'll kiss you one more time, and leave you on The rolling river shores of changes So sit by my side, come as close as the air Share in a memory of gray Wander in my words, dream about the pictures That I play of changes
Hi everyone. Thank you for the welcomes and the crown. Not really a crown type of woman, more of a barefoot, jeans, t-shirt type in my off hours but whatever works. LOL. So on that note, I am an outdoorsy type, hiking, beach when I can get there, love to read, talk, people watch, and I am a work a holic, although I am trying to do better about that. I work in the legal field as a guardian ad litem and mediator. Very interesting work, although it can be heartbreaking. Long hours. Sometimes I wish I had a job that I could just leave at the office. To unwind, I sometimes play mindless online games but many times I just like to sit outside with an alcohol laced beverage and contemplate the stars to decompress. :)
Have a good day everyone. Take care.
Lily
-- Edited by Lily on Friday 17th of July 2009 08:43:50 AM
The great thing about that crown is that like whipped cream, it goes with just about anything ...
Your job sounds interesting. I can understand the heartbreak but I bet there's a fair amount of satisfaction sprinkled in. Looking forward to learning more about it.
Hi everyone. Thank you for the welcomes and the crown. Not really a crown type of woman, more of a barefoot, jeans, t-shirt type in my off hours but whatever works. LOL. So on that note, I am an outdoorsy type, hiking, beach when I can get there, love to read, talk, people watch, and I am a work a holic, although I am trying to do better about that. I work in the legal field as a guardian ad litem and mediator. Very interesting work, although it can be heartbreaking. Long hours. Sometimes I wish I had a job that I could just leave at the office. To unwind, I sometimes play mindless online games but many times I just like to sit outside with an alcohol laced beverage and contemplate the stars to decompress. :)
Have a good day everyone. Take care.
Lily
-- Edited by Lily on Friday 17th of July 2009 08:43:50 AM
I guess I will introduce myself. My name is Lily. I was directed here from another site. I am going through a major life change and looking to reconnect with the lesbian community and for other women to communicate with. Not quite ready to venture out yet, but being that there is not much of a gay community where I live, it's not even really an issue for me.
I have popped in here a few times and it seems a bit quiet, but maybe that is because it is summer time. Looking forward to getting to know all of you. Take care.
Lily
Welcome, Lily!
I'm right there with you in the major life changes arena. Tis the season, I suppose. Just keep plugging along and working through the issues one at a time, and all will be well. :)
Check out a few topics here. Jump in whenever your mood strikes.
Hi Lily. Nice to see someone new. I went through the major life change 3 years ago and, boy am I glad that is over. The ones today are small in comparrison. I use to feel like you that my exposure where I live is limited but, maybe once you care to venture out in your area again you will see differently. I hope so. Gator
I guess I will introduce myself. My name is Lily. I was directed here from another site. I am going through a major life change and looking to reconnect with the lesbian community and for other women to communicate with. Not quite ready to venture out yet, but being that there is not much of a gay community where I live, it's not even really an issue for me.
I have popped in here a few times and it seems a bit quiet, but maybe that is because it is summer time. Looking forward to getting to know all of you. Take care.
Lily
Welcome, Lily!
I'm right there with you in the major life changes arena. Tis the season, I suppose. Just keep plugging along and working through the issues one at a time, and all will be well. :)
Check out a few topics here. Jump in whenever your mood strikes.
I guess I will introduce myself. My name is Lily. I was directed here from another site. I am going through a major life change and looking to reconnect with the lesbian community and for other women to communicate with. Not quite ready to venture out yet, but being that there is not much of a gay community where I live, it's not even really an issue for me.
I have popped in here a few times and it seems a bit quiet, but maybe that is because it is summer time. Looking forward to getting to know all of you. Take care.
Lily
Heya Lily
nice to see a new face here. This is a time for life changes isn't it? Lots of stress in the everyday world with the economy and everything else going on. It has been quiet here of late. Part of that may indeed be the summer. For me ive not been posting as much, having a bit of the life change experience myself and spending a lot of time contemplating all of what that will bring. In my case two of my closest friends are being transferred a thousand miles away and it represents a huge loss for me. Im finding my reaction to that to be a general not wanting to do anything other than pout. This too shall pass as they say. So, Lily what are you interested in? Im a fan of reading, paddling, travel, the gym, politics and people. Take a spin around some of the topics and join in.
I guess I will introduce myself. My name is Lily. I was directed here from another site. I am going through a major life change and looking to reconnect with the lesbian community and for other women to communicate with. Not quite ready to venture out yet, but being that there is not much of a gay community where I live, it's not even really an issue for me.
I have popped in here a few times and it seems a bit quiet, but maybe that is because it is summer time. Looking forward to getting to know all of you. Take care.
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